Dad who is 90 has dementia and refuses to go to the doctor and day care he just wants stay in his bed and room most of the day. The doctor visit is usually once every 2 months and day care is 3 days a week. It is to the point literally where I have to get someone to physically to lift him out of his bed even though he is able to walk. Needless to say this is creating a lot of stress. He has never been on anxiety medicine and the doctor gave me some lorazepam but this does not have any affect on him. I just need something which will calm him down so I get take him out to the doctor and other places he needs to go to. I also wanted to ask how long anxiety medicine is effective; can you give it at night and it will still be effective the next morning as most of his activities that I would like to take him to are before noon. Any suggestions would be appreciated.