So, though I've moved Daddy to a full AL facility, his stubborness (is that a word?) is driving me BANANAS!!!
Of course, I moved him there for his safety and my peace of mind, but he REFUSES to acknowledge that he needs help. He refuses to pull the call bell because he doesn't want to "bother" the nurses! I've tried to explain to him that the staff is happy to help him, and they have also told him the same. Instead he will just "go without" which is really starting to bother me.
For example, Carolina summers are BRUTAL, and because he can't see well enough to work the A/C unit in his room, he will sit in sweltering heat which negatively impacts his breathing (not to mention risk of heat stroke). The rare times the staff does convince him to allow them to turn on the A/C, he gets cold and will play around with the electrical cord until he can get it unplugged (not a good idea for an elderly legally blind man to crawl around on a wood floor to unplug an appliance) instead of simply asking a staff member to turn off the unit. He'd rather sweat than ask for help.
Today, I receive a phone call from him while at work. His mobility scooter had "stopped" again. Translation: he's trying to activate it too quickly and it's not responding fast enough. Instead of calling the staff to help him, he called me (what can I do from work 45 minutes away?) and ended up missing lunch. I suggested he ask the staff to bring him something.. again a NO.
The list goes on... he insists on trying to shave himself, but can't see that the plastic cap is still on the razor, then he throws a tantrum about a dull razor. He won't let the staff help him shave. I've since refused to help him (with hopes of subtly forcing him to ask the staff), but when he starts resembling a homeless man, I will break down and do it for him.
Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can get Dad to use the silly call bell? We're paying the big bucks for the service. He might as well use it.