Mom has had 3 strokes (brain bleeds) and has Parkinson's. She falls a lot, probably 3 or 4 times just this past 2 weeks. Not safe for her to cook due to memory issues. I think she should be in assisted care. Dad does "not want to live with old people" - he's 84 for gods sake - and refuses to get help in for Mom. Keeps saying he can take care of her, but this is not realistic, and he says she refuses to allow him to get her the help she needs. Now he wants to just take her to assisted care facility and leave her there. I think he has a good degree of dementia as well - so while he asks for thoughts and guidance, he does not accept thoughts that are not his own. I think it is a matter of time before she is really injured. How do I convince them to accept the assistance options that are available for people to stay living in their own home, or to go to assisted care?