My 85 year old dad has lung cancer which has spread and doctor's say they can't fix it (tumor near aorta), he is too weak to survive surgery or more chemo. He also seems to have an extreme progression of Dementia over the last 6 weeks. He got Pneumonia and ended up in the hospital and now the nursing home (for last 20 days). Before he went into the hospital he already was not eating much but was more alert and weeks before was sitting on the back deck talking to me. He was having maybe a milkshake/smoothie and some mash potatoes each day. Since going into the nursing home we have found out he is having trouble swallowing and that was part of reason he is not eating solid food. Each day in nursing home if he eats mashed potatoes or drinks milkshake is hit or miss. My mom is making the milkshakes and bringing soup from home. He will drink a Glucerna most days. Rehab at nursing home is not working and he now sleeps a lot. If we are not talking to him or visitors are not there he is pretty much sleep. Now I am starting to feel like my mom and I are not doing enough to get him to drink soups, milkshakes, etc and therefore he is getting weaker and therefore he is sleeping. We just called hospice to bring him home because the cancer doctor is giving him 3-6 months to live and they will assess him next week but I woke up this morning thinking we should figure out some more things he likes to eat more soups etc so he has more energy to atleast sit up longer, move around. I feel like I am just 'letting' him die because of the not eating. I am so confused. Should we be doing more to get him to eat? He is not saying he is hungry. He says he is not in pain. Thank You.