I'm worried about her health and frustrated with trying to reason with her. Caregiving is killing her. As if late-stage Alzheimer's isn't enough, he also has debilitating neuropathy and wears an ostomy. Mom hasn't slept in her bed in over a year and a half in order to keep an eye on him. (Fortunately the neuropathy keeps him in bed.) He wakes every 1-2 hours, removes the bag and rips it to shreds. Thus every 1-2 hours Mom has to get up to clean up the mess--not a quick job. (And Medicare will pay for only 26 bags a month, so this routine is prohibitively expensive.) How do I convince her to start taking decisive actions to move him into a home? She'll do a little something that gives me hope, then suddenly it's on the back burner again. What can I do?