Reading posts about alcoholic parent doesn't seem to cover the problem I'm having. Dad's been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. After his wife died last year it has gotten worse than it's ever been. He doesn't eat anymore. He lies to his doctors who congratulate him on his weight loss. He lies to me and it's now progressing into abuse. I've been taking care of him from afar by visiting him every month for the last few years. I am a single mom with a full time job. And now the deterioration of my dad is about to snap me in two. His grand plan is to have me abandon my own life and move in with him! It's a thought I can't stomach.. the decay of his life becoming mine... I used to be able to bear his drinking, but lately, with my own stresses, his drunken states of abuse and stumbling and inappropriate behavior and self starvation... are unbearable. I have no one to turn to... I don't expect him to stop drinking, but how long can a person sustain life living this way? It's torture watching him deteriorate.