I need help figuring out how to deal with my father. Two years ago he suffered a stroke and has since been partially paralyzed on his left side. When he was at the hospital the doctors found out he had diabetes and high cholesterol. They put him on six different medications including anti depressants since he had a very hard time accepting he became disabled from the stroke and kept denying it was serious.
After he was released they put him in a center so he could undergo physiotherapy to try and recover some strength on his left side. He stayed there for three months until they released him and he came home. At first, everything seemed fine, he took his medications, did his exercises and tested his blood sugar. But eventually he started refusing to do certain things like not testing on some days or not taking one or two of the medications. We urged him not do this since it would make his recovery a lot harder and take longer but he didn't listen. We couldn't force him to do things either, he is a grown man who has the right to make decisions that affect his life.
He started not taking his diabetes seriously and went from refusing insulin shots that he had to take daily to consuming more than normal amounts of sugar. It came to the point where he took and hid away so much sugar that we started hiding and covering the sugar in inconspicuous locations. He has not taken an insulin shot in over a year or taken any of his meds. He also refuses to see his family doctor and gets quite angry when we suggest it. He continues to eat and hide food that is unhealthy and not intended for him to eat. Even if we hide it from him, he spends his free time searching everywhere when we're not home. He has stopped showering regularly and suffers from bowel movement problems. We can clearly see that his health is deteriorating yet he continues to ignore it.
The bowel problems became so bad for him he demanded to be admitted to the hospital for them twice. The second time we weren't willing to take him since he pretty much refused help after realizing they had to do certain tests so he called 911 himself... which resulted in the same situation.
It is like my father has lost a sense of common sense and has mental instability with his confusing random acts and addiction to sugar and tissue paper. My mom and my brother are stressed so much by him and having to deal with his messes. My mom, especially, since she has to work full time and has little time to spare. He won't listen to anything anyone says even if we repeat it many times, not even his doctor's word is good enough. We simply cannot deal with his lies, denials and lack of recognition for how serious this situation really is. But we can't just throw him out or put him in a nursing home. He's not 65 years old yet and nor do we have the money for that. We do not know what other options there are. My father is pretty much awaiting death and torturing his family until he passes.
We also live in Canada, any help is appreciated, thank you.