How do I handle this. I am 60 years old and diabetic and my husband is 63 with issues of his own. We are so tired. My dad is a 90 year old. He NEVER stops talking. He keeps repeating the same questions and stories over and over.
He is demanding. No matter what idea he has, he wants to do it, say it, get it NOW. It borders on abuse. He is also very mobile and will invade your space no matter what you do. I've had to close and lock a door to the 2nd floor to make sure he does not enter while we are sleep.
We have found that our ENTIRE life is drawn around him. If we don't immediately stop what we are doing, he will threaten to move out. I know realistically this can't happen. He has alzheimer's.
I have guiltily thought about putting him into a home. I am not sure how to handle this. I am afraid the stress is going to ruin my health.
Another layer to this is that He abandon my mom and my siblings when I was 14 (I'm the oldest) and never tried to call us. I found him 12 years ago and we reunited. Over the last 12 years we saw his decline and my husband and I decided that the moral thing to do was to take care of dad. Much of his ramblings are regarding his 2nd wife, his step daughter, what my mom supposedly did wrong, etc. This is mentally devastating to me.
Don't get me wrong. I love him. He is kind at times. But we are exhausted. At least he is sleeping through the night - the doctor gave him sleeping pills. But I'm afraid his like a spoiled child that is draining all of our energy and our time.
What to do?