Hi. Haven't used this in a awhile. I have been informed by a sibling that my Dad may not be getting the best care; his own decisions a likely factor.
Where to start. First, about his condition.
He is completely bedbound. Completely. Can't even sit up. He can still talk but can still talk and move his head and eat.
He wears a diaper and a tube is in his stomach connected to his bladder to handle his poop and pee. While he can still eat, I don't think he's getting the best meals and food. He's too skinny for my liking. Either it's because of his condition, or he's picky eater and not eating the right kind of food.
Living environment. Currently, he is in a rehab hospital. Recently, he had to have one of his feet amputated due to an infection that would not clear up. And he's only prone to skin infection and bed sores.
Here's is where I am in dire need of help for his sake.
Despite all of my Dad's medical problems, for some reason, he's still in charge of his own care and money, and NONE of us kids have any say over either.
It is baffling. Because my Dad is in the worst state possible, and we kids have NO say on his care and finances whatsoever.
Why is that a problem?
Because he's trying to get discharged from the hospital and being transported by to his studio apartment that he has been paying for NINE MONTHS WHILE STILL IN THE HOSPITAL! WASTE OF MONEY!
Since none of us kids have any say over him whatsoever, I'm terrified he can and WOULD discharge himself despite his HORRIBLE medical conditions. Yeah, maybe the hospital wouldn't discharge him due severity of his conditions, but we kids still have no say just in case he COULD be discharge just by his word.
For the last FOUR YEARS we have tried to talk him into 24 hour care at a proper and equipped facility of some sort. We are always ignored and dismissed when we bring it up.
My dad will not listen to us. He is completely on care, yet we have no say whatsoever.
I baffles me is how is the law and the state on his side when it comes to his word and decisions, despite being completely being incapable to care for himself.
My Dad says he would get enough care by living in his apartment and having people come over and take care of him. That's just not possible due to his policy and his finances.
I need help. I don't want to gain power over him just to dump him in a home. I need power over him because he is not making the best decisions regarding care.
I'm not exaggerating and there's evidence we can provide. So I need advice and how to properly gain power of attorney and have legal say over my dad's care and finances (what little he has, he doesn't have much)
How do I do this?