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Every morning when I talk to him he tells me he barely made it out alive. And he thinks he’s coming home that day... every day. I have to tell him he has a few more weeks left to get stronger so I can take care of him and that upsets him.


Mom not sure how to handle this. Any advice plz ?

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Yes, assure him that you've "taken care of it", "fixed it with the supervisors"--whatever it takes to get him calm!

Have the facility test for a UTI (these can often cause delusions and psychiatric symptoms in elders) and get the geriatric psychiatrist who visits the facility to see your dad asap!

((((((hugs))))))
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faeriefiles Mar 2019
Great advice, you could even get the nightshift folks who work there to help you make him feel safer. Maybe get one or two of them to play the role of his personal body guards who "make sure he's safe".
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My mother’s dementia manifested itself in delusions and hallucinating as well. She had developed an abject fear of men in her later life and she hallucinated men were stalking her, coming through her walls and hiding in her closet. Oddly enough, she didn’t beg me to get her out of the place, but she did firmly believe that her hallucinations were absolutely true.

Do not take him out of the facility against medical advice. It could affect his insurance coverage. I know it’s devastating to listen to him cry and plead. But, it is the dementia. He will hallucinate no matter where he is. At least here, he is supervised and cared for around the clock. You can always speak with his doctor or the nurse and ask if there are meds he could take for anxiety.
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Its the Dementia. And being in a strange place and a brain bleed probably doesn't help but makes it worse.
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TanyaGa Mar 2019
Yes I agree. But I just don’t know how to handle him. I just got off the phone w him and he said tonight is the night. I need to get him out of there. 😭
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My dad's delusion was that shadowy government agencies were out to get him. I didn't try to convince him that it wasn't true. That's what he believed and he was scared. Instead I comforted him without agreeing with his delusion. I reassured him that as long as he had me he was safe, that I would never let anything happen to him. I reminded him that I would have never placed him in a position to be in danger and that I would take care of it so he wouldn't have to worry. And that would hold him over--until the next time when we'd start all over again.
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TanyaGa Mar 2019
Thank you for your replay and sharing your story. It helps a lot. As I was reading your response I had a wonderful idea. I am going to tell him that I spoke with the head of the department and they agree that Dad will never be touched. I think that might work!!😀
I just got off the phone with him. He is so scared. They are about to eat dinner and he was almost begging me to get him out of there. He said he wasn’t going to be as lucky tonight and this would be the night they get him. 😢
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