Dad in rehab may have given up. What to do?

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As I said earlier, my brother had to force him down to rehab for hip replacement. Otherwise no motivation and not really eating. Have meeting with center on Tuesday. Wondering if his onset of not caring his way of giving up or underlying medical condition?
This behavior was similar to earlier part of stay. Is it maybe meds since he was active and responsive just three days ago.

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The whole matter might be a UTI. Any infection can cause lethargy but Urinary Tract Infections are rampant in the elderly.
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Glad to hear he's doing better!
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G: re your question about whether he will get better/full time care in nursing home, the answer is yes that is what they (NHs) are about. Some elder care attorneys offer free first time consultation - ask them about the steps to getting Medicaid for him.
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Dad doing better. I think now he just wants to get out if there. I keep reinforcing his need to do PT.
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Having had both my knees and both my hips replaced in the last 12 years I can assure you that yes, the rehab is very HARD and often very painful. But definitely worth the effort. I am nearing 80 now and can still walk my dogs, move in the local pool, drive and shop etc. I could not have done any of that 10 years ago.
It is worth all the effort but it also helps to have family members sympathize AS WELL AS encourage the person going through it. Pain meds help ( but not opioids) using a walker for a while is essential, having some "cheerleading" cards help, good food helps, having a project to work on and to look forward to each day is also essential to give the "patient" a reason to wake up and GET up every day. Try to find a "personal motto" ( sort of like a mental bumper sticker)
for the person too...It took me a while but I finally adopted two:
1)STOP COMPLAINING and 2) SUCK IT UP and KEEP GOING.
I knew I had to do the PT or I would lose my beloved dogs if I could not walk them.
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Visited dad today with nephews. He was doing much better and was eating with and without help. Found out he had a fever for several days. They said temperature was normal but will get X-ray to see if it was pneumonia plus check blood and urine for UTI.
In the past when he has gotten fevers he gets extremely lethargic. Visited again tonight and he was lethargic and sleepy. He did not eat and was not hungry. He did take meds and water. I let him sleep, he was upset because when changed this morning nurse grabbed his neck and his neck now aches.
They also said podiatrist will be in in Minday to cut nails. However, I fear they are throwing him out because not doing PT. Yet they let him go with long toe nails, shoulder pain and fever.
He is a fighter and can communicate. He can do much better if he gets past these hurdles.
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Call the head of social work. If you are POA, you are the one who should be getting the information. Be the squeaky wheel. But bring a plate of cookies for the staff, as well. Or order in some pizzas for lunch.
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Asked the floor nurse about condition. I requested neurological exam and saw psychiatrist. Yet no update given to me. The doctor assigned is difficult to reach and I get no answers.
I wish his own GP doctor could see him.
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G, who are you asking for medical information? The aides and LPNS are not going to be sources of information. You need to sit with the nurse practioner, or doctor or Director of Nursing to get real information.

Before the care meeting sit with your brother and get on the same page. Discuss what questions you need answered. Find out what you each know, what you don't know and what you want to know.

For example, why do you think there has been a sudden change in my father's mental status? He was talkative, but now appears lethargic and less responsive? What do you think caused the change?

I would not question the doctor's expertise ( if you do, you should bring in another doctor) rather, you need to find out what they think dad's prognosis and long term care needs are. You need to find out very specifically why they did the neuro exam and what the results were. Do they suspect dad has developed dementia? (This would not be uncommon after anesthesia). Do they recommend more testing?
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I have POA and health care proxy. Just not given info regarding condition and medical results. Odd that just three days ago he was talkative.
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