My dad is getting very forgetful and loses his train of thought. We kids don't want him living alone. His wife moved to AZ 3 years ago and she and her adult kids are bleeding him dry financially. He lives in WI. He said he cant afford a divorce which is an excuse because he just bought her a new van and himself a new car-plus his and her guns. She is verbally and emotionally abusive to him. How do we take control of his finances and help him straighten his life out? And hopefully obtain a divorce for him. He has few assets but big monthly retirement checks monthly. He has decided he is going to live with us kids on a rotating basis as she refuses to move back. Would like to cut her off financially as she is just using him for his money. What is the first step? She works full time and he paid for her motor home and car down there. She spends most of his money on her kids and grandkids. He has been married to her for 11-12 years so he might have to pay alimony in WI but that would still leave him with more money than he has now.