My dad is 94 and lives in memory care with my mom who is 97. She is relatively sound mentally but is at her wits end. My dad constantly rambles or sings or moans or crys. He is up at all hours of the night so she gets no rest. She has been sick and he is convinced that she is dying. His doctor is trying a med to help with his anxiety but it doesn't seem to be working. I've been told that today he has been crying all day and sometimes pounds on the locked door trying to get out of memory care. The staff is at a loss what to do for him. My mom needs extra care right now because of a nasty UTI so they are trying to focus on getting her well. The nurse at the facility recommended having him sent to a behavioral hospital for evaluation and to get his meds adjusted. He is in the VA system but I have not been impressed with the VA care. I know the system is overburdened and that there are good doctors and nurses that work there but I will honor my dad's wishes of never being sent to the VA hospital that is close to him. Anyone have experience with an Alz patient and a behavioral hospital? I'm all for getting a second opinion but I have no clue as to where to start. I should add that the doctor and nurse from VA come to see him as he is no longer able to make the trip to the hospital. The mental health doctor that he used to see does not do home care so any assessment is done by email and that can take a couple of days. Even then it seems that the right hand does not know what the left hand is doing.