My Dad is 76 years old and currently lives at home. We lost my Mom in October so he's dealing with a huge loss right now.
My sister and I share POA duties. She has traditionally handled the financial end and lives out of town. I live in town and have dealt with the caregiving end of things. My sister has always thought the best alternative for care would be for my parents to live in a facility. My Dad has repeatedly told me that he wants to continue living at home. My sister contends that he is agreeable to moving to a skilled nursing facility.
She has taken upon herself to make arrangements with his Dr to have him hospitalized on Monday. During their discussion, she said, the Dr agreed that Dad is not capable of making the best decisions for himself at this point.
I feel torn about all of this because I really don't think he wants to leave home --- on the other hand, he's been in a state of depression for a long time and it's much worse now that Mom's passed away. He doesn't seem to be doing well despite having caregivers around the clock making sure every need is taken care of. I guess my sister thinks Dad will do better if he's around people his own age. Also, finances must be an issue and I really hadn't given that much thought.
I just don't want my Dad to be forced into something he doesn't want to do. It's really been bothering me thinking about this and I just had to get it off my chest. Thanks for listening!