My Dad sometimes remembers Mom has passed but often he forgets. Sometimes he asks if Mom is in the hospital, and other times he asks if she has died. He has some dementia, he forgets some things, but not others. In many ways he is still himself, and we can talk together. He is so loving and caring, as he was to my Mom who passed away a few days ago.
Will this change? How do I handle it?
We sing, we pray, and talk about how Mom is happy now in heaven, no more sorrow, no more pain. Each time though, when Dad forgets, he cries, and I cry and it's like starting the grieving all over again. I think of it like this: finding out something traumatic every hour. I feel for him, and cry for him too and for the loss of my Mom, and it's like I am grieving twice, for I grieved when she first got Alzheimer and never knew it would be so hard when she passed.