My dad is 87, caring for my mom (who turned 89 today). He's in fairly good health, but she suffers from dementia (short-term memory loss, mainly) and has mobility problems. My dad has arranged for round-the-clock home aides to be with her at all times, but in recent months things have gotten more difficult.
Last month, Mom developed a lung infection which sent her to the hospital for five days. The time in the hospital bed severely impacted her mobility problems, and her physical therapist recommended she spend time at a rehab center (in a local nursing home) before trying to return home. Right now, that's where she is. She begs my dad to take her home every time he visits her (he visits two or three times daily), and she seems to be more and more disoriented. The nurse practitioner at the facility doesn't want to release her (even though she has been making good progress with her physical therapy), and now they're claiming recurring concerns about her lungs and breathing.
Dad is completely depressed. I live five hours away, which makes it very difficult for me to be much help. We talk on the phone every few days, but today he sounded worse than I've ever heard him.
Would a geriatric manager be of help to him? Are there ways he can bring her home safely? Money is not an issue for him -- part of me worries that the nursing home knows that and is keeping her there longer than necessary (but that may be my own frustration talking). Anyone out there experience anything similar?
How can I help Dad deal with this?