My father is 88 and has had his license taken away. My husband and I moved him from a large city to live with us. He wants to go back to 'take care of his sister' who is 95. She needs to be in a home herself, but her sons won't put her in one as she does not want to go. They want me to move my father back with her with the 'hope' they will move to assisted living. But she is NOT a candidate for assisted living. She needs to be in a personal care home.
But as for me, I cannot feel comfortable leaving my dad to live unassisted from 6 pm to 7am - all night with my aunt who most definitely has advanced dementia. It has disaster written all over.
So my questions are 1) How do I stop my uncle and cousins from pressuring my dad - making him feel guilty - into living with my feeble aunt.
2) How can I address my father when he cries to go back. I've had to hide the car keys to prevent his trying to drive back.