My sister and I looked around for a long time to place my dad in a good facility. She works full time and I am not in a position to take care of him but have given her 100% support by doing external duties for him.
He was diagnosed with early dementia, but unfortunately it has progressed and he suffers a prostrate problem causing him to soil his pants from time to time, which my sister found extremely hard to cope with, even with her daily help.
He was placed in the facility two weeks ago and at first threw a tantrum when he first saw us. Now after the Respidal he is on, he is a lot more subdued, but he cried yesterday when he saw her whilst I remained in the garden area for fear of him really performing if he sees me. He is very heartsore that we did this to him and we feel so very bad and at a loss. We are thinking of ways we could take him back, but haven't yet found a solution to have him taken care of full time at home. Has anyone had a similar experience or any suggestions that might help to ease the pain both my sister and I feel.