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When I go to see my dad in Goshen ny in a nursing home can I bring home back to Florida where I live ...my half sister says he can't .what can I do if she has legal paper work on him .he is my legal father ,she isn't his daughter..please help me

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Kathy, I have to be blunt here but I feel you in are in denial about your Dad's condition. Plus you admitted you have been out of your Dad's life for a few years, thus other family members are questioning why now. The fact that your half-sister been doing all the work says that she knows exactly what is going on.

People are placed in continuing care facilities because they need 3 full-time shifts of care. Alzheimer's/Dementia stages can change quickly over time, and especially if there is a fall involved. Have you spoken with your Dad since his fall? Some people can sound good over the phone as they are focusing on the phone conversation, thus not distracted by things around them. Once they hang-up, it's another story.

Please get up to speed regarding Alzheimer's/Dementia, there is quite a bit to learn about this very confusing disease. Go to the blue bar near the top of the page, click on SENIOR LIVING.... now click on ALZHEIMER'S CARE.... scroll down to all the articles.

Let us know how things turn out.
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Thank u for the help .i have a sister in California and she knows my sister really well and i know that i have been out of my dads life for a few years but he is my dad and i wont let no one hurt him ...and plus he is a vet so i might b able to find out something through them i hope ....but if u or anyone else can help ..i need all the help i can get ...thank u so much
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Educate yourself on different types of dementia before you go. Not everyone knows that all dementia is not Alzheimer's. Absolutely don't just assume your half-sister is making it all up. His recognizing you does not mean he has normal cognitive function, and possibly his care and supervision needs are beyond what one person can handle. His wanting you to come get him and take care of him may not mean that is really what he needs or that it is even remotely possible. Be realistic about what is possible and what is really best for you Dad - you may realize, as sad as it is, that he really needs to be where he is and what you really need to do is collaborate with your half-sister on how you can help and be part of his life such that he will treasure your visits and you will treasure the memories. Her trying to keep control may be for good reasons, to protect him from others who might be trying to steal from him - nose around on here and you will see lots of stories about exploitation of the elderly.

OTOH, if you go and the place is really bad from top to bottom, and he is actually independent in self-care and doing the Mew York Times crosswords, it's a different story, there are very different routes you would take to help him, but I think that is not what you will find. Sorry you are facing this and hoping for the best for all of you!
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And idk know if my half sister has any kind of paper work on him ...what can i do to get my dad back home
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Ok my dad has always knew what he was doing and he has always been lived on his own. ..last time i talked to him he was fine and then i found out he fell and that is y my half sister sent him to a place to get better. .i understand but i dont understand y she wont let me see him with out going through her or her husband. ...im not going to hurt him all i want is to bring him back home and stay with me ....i think she is doing the is to me cause her dad is past ..idk but she is not to be trusted. .she was never around when i was growing up and it was just me and my dad...i just want to know whe b i go up there if my dad wants to go back to Florida with me if he will b able to
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Goshen NY is very close to the PA line.
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Evidently, your dad's Alzheimer's has reached the stage where he is too much for just your half-sister to care for by herself in her home. I don't see anything wrong with her wanting to know when you planned to come up. It's just good manners to tell someone when you would like to visit since who you want to see lives in their house.

My step sister wants to know when I plan to visit so that she can tell dad's caregivers at home that I'm coming to visit. She likes me to visit when she has a day off from work so that we can visit and discuss my dad's care alone.

For your dad to be in a Nursing home means that doctor decided that that was where he needed to be for the best care and his safety. You may want to read some of the articles on this site about Alzheimer's and learn more about it.

If the nursing home doctor considers him to be an unsafe discharge, I would not try to go against him.

Since he was living with her in her house in PA, how did he end up in a nursing home in NY? How far does she live from his nursing home?
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Go see him. If he was admitted to a Nursing Home, it was done with a doctor's recommendation. She can't make that up.
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I was told by my half sister that my dad has eltimers. But every time i call him he knows who i am .she is trying to make it that i dont get up there in time and she isn't letting him talk to me .last time i talked to him was april 5th when he called me asking me to come up there to take care of him and i couldn't plus the place he was living at was her house she owned in pa.and she wouldn't let me go see him until i told her when i was going to see him and u just cant give a date and that was what she wanted .she is controling and trying to control everything. I wont let her do that to me or to him and im scared for my dad..please help me and my dad
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If she has the Guardian papers, he cannot be moved even by her without court approval. If he is on Medicaid, that ends when he leaves NY. You would have to re-apply in Florida and probably be on a waiting list.
This would cost you a LOT of out of pocket money and you will be caring for him in your home 24/7/365. Please reconsider.
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