This is with great frustration and turmoil for my 3 sisters and me. We came from a loving home, lost our mother in her early age of 52 and we girls were in our late twenties. We’ve always said when our mom died, our dad died too. Born to a father who was an alcoholic, our father it saddens, has fallen suit. 29 years differ, he has rebounded into a relationship literally after our mother passed. You cannot say this relationship has blossomed over the years. We have learned that she herself indeed, is an alcoholic. Imagine two codependency/enablers sacrificing their needs for the sake of the other. Fast forward to almost 8 years ago, our father had to have a liver transplant. Sober and vowed, only to have failed himself, had no support from her, and disappointed us girls. We are back to face his reality. We are back to where we left off, only to be introduced to a new friend (the girlfriends) who has been in the picture for two years as we know of. She faces her own problems of pill addiction. Through conversations with our father, we find that this “friend” is a wonderful friend. To him, both woman would do no wrong. They are highly praised for all their support and caring. In fact so supportive, we found out that the financials where being handled by the third girl with the support of our fathers girlfriend. Things we noticed where getting out of control. Our father had excuses on why we could not visit and phone calls where not being returned, claiming he never received any, and our phone numbers were never correct in his phone – no matter how many times they were corrected. We decided to step in, something we should have done years ago, but our father is adamant about his independence. First things first, DPOA, (guardianship is out of the question) we ran a credit report which showed a loan of $15k clearly did not belong to our father. Through research with the loan company and police reports, with police statements it was concluded that the loan was taken out by the third girl along with the girlfriends support. We know from the girlfriends bank statements that past deposits well over the amount of her employment has been weekly deposited into her account with crazy cash withdrawals from our fathers. One can only imagine, but to prove “is beyond a reasonable doubt”. Here is where we lay, the girlfriend is denying any involvement, 22 pieces of mail where sent to our father and not one had reached his hands. In the third girls’ statement to the police, she stated that the girlfriend provided the mail (the girlfriend is the only one with a mail key). My father at 78 is frail, has fallen several times in the past year, been in and out of the hospital due to health for the past 10 years, and at this time is malnutrition. He has accepted the fact that the third girl had caused theft but will not except the fact that his girlfriend was a part of it. With each communication, when we think we have opened the door the one in front slams shut. How do we challenge him into the beliefs that his relationship with his girlfriend is no longer based on codependency/enabler but a new unhealthy one, in the hands of a person that can be manipulating and is creative with undo influences?