My 94 year old father called me last night and said he wants to buy a house. He hates assisted living. I told him not an option. After an hour of him telling me he could take care of himself, which he can't, he's in a wheelchair and probably has mild dementia (he's not been tested), I finally said my husband and I would come out tonight to talk with him.
He doesn't do much at the Assisted Living facility, says he doesn't like anything. I have reached out to the activities directory to encourage him, she says he always says no.
Of course, he played the guilt card last night, "If you loved me you'd let me go". I have all the financial side in order and have all of his accounts, etc, so that's not a worry.
But how do I handle? Is there a book that would be helpful in dealing with this. I am concerned he will get out of line at the facility.