My 95 yr old dad has cancer and dementia. Sometimes he'll ask me where my mother is, or where my brother is. My mom and brother John died suddenly within 6 months of each other back in 2004. My dad catches me off guard asking me where they are. He usually asks about one at a time. It breaks my heart. I once answered that my mom is in heaven. Of course he forgets. He just asked me where my brother is, and if he too is eating dinner. It's so difficult for me to answer....I'll just say maybe he is, and change the subject. Has anyone else dealt with this issue? It's heartbreaking.