He smokes in the garage but it's still getting in the house. They moved in first and the house smelled like smoke before we even moved in. When I addressed he went off the hook and didn't speak to me for days, told my mom they were moving (didn't say that to me). He was originally smoking inside and "blowing it out the patio door", but did compromise with the garage. However it's still getting inside. I sent him an email about my concerns with this, that I know he was trying hard and I wasn't going to ask him to change anything, but these were the health risks (hoping the info would encourage him to take it outside). My 4 year old had been recovering from a respiratory illness as well. Well that blew up in my face this am. He was up very early (I'm sure up half the night because he ruminates over things and can't sleep, has severe anxiety, but does nothing about it except smoke). In front of my children stated they will be moving out in the spring, and my daughter's issues were due to the "cheap furnace filters" my husband buys. That he has had enough and they are "outta here". I went over to his side and yelled at him for making my kids cry and then had to go to work.
My mom has had multiple strokes which prompted this venture. My dad had made statements about quitting, trying e cigs, or smoking outside once we moved. They contributed financially to this home, and were going to help with the bills. If they did move, we will be unable to afford it by ourselves. I acknowledged that in my email and how much I appreciated their help thus far, with the kids and getting the house set up. Currently, we share a kitchen, and they have a 1000 sq ft. in-law side. there is a hallway with two pocket doors separating the sides. The garage door in located in that hall. We live in ny, so it's fall and will soon get bitterly cold, which is most likely why he has an aversion to taking it outside.What's worse in before our fight, my dad was talking about having a room built in the basement, with a heavy outside door, and I think the intention is he thinks he can smoke and not bother anyone, but of course he cannot contain the smoke totally with any door.I don't know what to do, every time I address this issue, and I feel gently, he reacts with severe anger. He probably will not speak to me or be willing to today at least. I am just looking out for my kids and have stated as much time and time again. He often claims his smoking isn't getting in anywhere, like we think we smell it and really don't (he has implied this in the past). It's like he's in some sort of denial and we are picking on him, and telling him what he can or cannot do in his house. I don't really care what he does unless it jeopardizes the health and safety of out children. If anyone has faced this issue or has any advice, please share.