My DH is the middle of 3 brothers. His older brother cut ties with everyone (including his mother) 4 years ago. We have limited online connection with his only child. My MIL is widowed. In the past few years we ( my husband and I) have taken on all responsibility for her legal needs. None of us live in the same city as her. We have offered to move her to our city, but she doesn't want to move and we respect that. Over the past 3 years we have been the only family members responsible for her care. My husband is the one who: makes sure her bills are paid, arranges for her tax returns, talks to her physician, calls her every 3 days, cleaned out her home and took her to the closing.We haven't had a vacation in over 3 years because all of our free time has been spent traveling to her city to deal with her needs. His younger brother is always "too busy" to assist in any manner. My husband recently asked him to help with moving his mom from independent living to assisted living. It's on the same campus, but still requires someone to move her stuff. Brother, is, of course, too busy. I'm done. I want to write these pretentious jerks out of our lives but my husband is holding on to the idea that they're family. Our daughter is getting married and younger brother will be "out-of-town" ( he works constantly OOT) and can't attend So much for those save-the-date cards sent 6 months ago. I hope my husband can move on and embrace loving friends who are more family than family. I dread the day we're dealing with a funeral that BIL is too busy too attend. Sorry for the rant, but I'm just so tired of dealing with this a-hole and I want my husband to just cut ties with him. It's taking a physical toll on him and I worry about his well-being.