I am a 60 yr old married, disabled woman who cares for my 93 yr. old MIL. She goes between my house and my husbands brother. They have t Use her SS income to live, they have many vices!!. I know you can't do this. I have had her for a month now, I am with her 24/7. My husband works and I know he is tired from working, he gets upset at me for trying to do everything! She has no control over her bodily functions so each time, about every 30 min. She has to go. I must clean her, change her undergarments, redress her and get her safely to her chair. She has fallen on 2 occasions, once while my husband was hunting and the other while we were alone again. I have many physical limitations along with depression and anxiety, making all of this so very overwhelming! I cry day and night, which my husband doesn't understand. I cannot mention anything about the "other side" ! For Thanksgiving the in laws wanted to take a trip and I haven't seen my brother and his family in probably 8 yrs. The older we get the more you want to see them, so we used our own money to put her in respite care for the minimum of 2 wks. Well now that I have had her for a month, in two weeks they want a vacation!?!? They want to use what little money she has to pay for respite care, NOT like us who footed our own bill! I am so very tired, exhausted and do not care about anything! I do not sleep, eat and of course do not socialize. I am at my wits end! My husband doesn't understand and gets loud and angry when I bring any of this up! I give all I have to give her the best possible care yet I know that she doesn't get treated very well when she's not here! I can't carry on a conversation with anyone and if it wasn't for my little dog I feel as though I couldn't or wouldn't make it!! I just need my husband to sit and communicate with me! We've been together for 35 years and this is just off limits! He knows I am in pain yet does NOT understand how stressful each and every hour is! What can I possibly do? I have no one but my brother that lives 6 hrs. Away that I can call and talk to about it, bless him he listens and tries to help me but I know he probably gets tired of the same old song!!! I need help and advice please!!!!