Covid Vaccine and Impatient Elder. Advice?

Have your tried emphasizing with Mum. Gee Mum I understand how upset you are that you were not able to get the vaccine right now.

Now that I have your insurance paperwork when more are available I will make sure you are registered as soon as more spaces come available.

It sure if frustrating, but there is nothing more I can do. Go ahead and blame the government if that makes you feel better.

I signed up on my County Public Health Department's page to get the vaccine. They have established a page containing a "waiting list" so you can see where you are on the list to get the vaccine. I am #72,351 on the list! Doesn't look like I'll be getting the vaccine any time soon.

Alva--I am always right behind you in comments! We must have similar morning routines.

There are vaccines, and it is truly a miracle that they were able to OK 2 ( with several more coming in the next few months)---think last year when they were saying it could easily be 2022 before ANY vaccine would pass muster---and here we are, barely into 2021 and I know personally about 80 people who have had their first shot. My DH got a letter from his liver transplant team yesterday telling him he was high priority and what he needed to do to get 'in the system'. He'll take care of that tomorrow and we hope he gets his first shot before he needs to travel again. (we are expecting at least a month's wait and he is about as high risk as they come)

Some states have botched this whole thing, which is mighty discouraging, but even my kids in CA say it's bad, but the news hypes it to the sky.

We're not a very patient people. I'm really still amazed that vaccines were so quickly created (on the shoulders of great scientists who went before!!)....

I DO KNOW that we have to be our own advocates. If you want to wait until your local CVS is offering COVID vaccinations, it will be summer. I'm in touch with both MY oncologist and PCP to see which clinic can get me first.

Right now there is a problem with we were lied to and told there is vaccine in reserve. It has proven to be a lie and there is, so Biden likely cannot release the vaccine here to all, as some is reserved for second shots until another shipment. The incoming administration intend to use the Act that can be invoked (Defensive production act) to ramp up the amount of vaccine produced. The outgoing administration had decided not to invoke that. We will see if it gets more vaccine here quicker. It's too bad you could not use the online until too late. We used the phone number but had to wait for 3 hours on phone (on charger) to get the appointment; we go the 28th for number one. My daughter, a teacher, got hers yesterday in Washington State. So it is happening.
I will say this....we have waited since last March. The Warp Speed or whatever they called the act to get us a vaccine got us a vaccine faster than any such thing in the history of the world. That is in itself amazing. It usually takes years to test and approve a vaccine.
We can all rage, cry, and point our fingers all we want. Meanwhile, we will have to make our best personal decision whether to get a vaccine not yet approved other than emergency approval, and have to sign up when or where we can. We often like States Rights and so here we are, with each state making its own rules. We are now, in California anyone over 65, but we are also in SF close to out of vaccine other than needed second doses. Logistics have been difficult but our city finally has it worked out for three locations on top of the known ones we have now.
In short. Doing the best we can. Nothing in real life is perfect. Not everything can be quickly or easily fixed; that's life.

Because the handling of both testing AND vaccination have been so abysmally addressed in this country there is a major difference from state to state and communities within state.

Have you tried simply telling her that you don’t KNOW why there’s no vaccine for her, and that you have done everything you were able to do?

Personally, and from our family experiences I think she’s absolutely right, so why allow yourself to even become a part of the discussion? Is it worth trying to persuade her that THERE IS NO MORE VACCINE?

In the state I live in (Confusion USA, at present) you CAN walk into a pharmacy and get vaccinated but here’s the joke- THERE IS NO VACCINE HERE EITHER!

THERE IS NO VACCINE. Anywhere. That is the truth. Feel free to pass the blame squarely to where it belongs!

I think you need to develop a thick skin, a couple of stock phrases (I'm sorry mom, but I didn't have the information I needed; I'm sorry that you have to wait, but you will get it when more vaccine becomes available). Leave the room if she becomes abusive.

This really points up the need to have those numbers on hand!