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My brother feels it is responsible to only see his mother once every 6 months at a nursing home & to come & go from her and her husbands home where I also live at as he desires. He tramples on my stuff, he accesses the fridge and eats & drinks and I suspect him of theft of some valuable papers missing. He has taken the property deed of my fathers dead mother & step father away as well this property and stated he intends those to pay the nursing home plus states Medicaid is paying for my mother to reside at the nursing home but my father & I both know she has not got Medicaid for out of home care & can only have in-home care with Medicaid at this address not the address of the nursing home. The nursing home has stolen both her checks she received each month and she owes over $10,000 to Discover Credit Card and my brother feels I should stop paying it instead of her paying it, they intend to consume her check on additional insurance for her residency at the nursing home which is $5,400 per month or $64,500 per year room and board. We do not have money nor properties that would cover the cost of such care which did not provide adequate doctor medical support - once a week visitation by the doctor for five minutes costs $45 but Medicare/Tricare refuses to pay any more than $35 a visit being a denied situation for the General Practicing Doctor whom manages another medical care center in a city over 35 miles from here. It is unfair that my brother has placed my fathers dead mothers home up for sale without having cleaned it up or emptied it of our belongings, it has been broken into once already with no loses because some kids saw the burglar and scared him off. I desire a "NO TRESPASS" against my brother to stop him from coming over here. I also seek a Revocation of his POA he has with my father and mother so I continue my caregiver status of securing them appointments and taking them to the doctor when they need it. My father lives at home & I care for him, he has a shunt in his brain & loses touch with reality sometimes so I must watch him closely, my brother has done nothing in support of his medical condition since the shunt placement back in August 2009. I have been the only person feeding them till two years ago when my brother took them away to a lawyer office and they signed a POA and they do not remember doing that and I would have to bring them back to that office for them to recall that moment in time. I cannot stand my brother coming here with his wife whom is also listed as POA for both parents. I am 61yo, my father is 81yo & my mother is 78yo. My mother is to old to be placed on State Medicaid which covers her out of home stay at a nursing home plus both their Social Security & Retirement Checks added together is well above the legal limit that they could have Medicaid out of home. My father has Medicaid capability. My brother was conned into making the decision based on a doctor at a hospital opinion which was suppose to be observation only, Medicare was paying the first 90dys for evaluation & another 100dys lapsed then he not able to come back & forth each week decided to leave my mother in the facility, having not explained to her that it was not me that placed her there she still believes I am responsible for her being there. For that reasoning he has held against their lives I want them to live together without any strings attached like a POA & since I live with them I should be their legal Guardian not my brother whom only claims to be my mother sponsor at the nursing home. The nursing home has lied to me on several occasions stating she has Medicaid & I learned they have a dummy medicaid number which they pull for her to access their pharmacy which is about 200 miles from Prattville in the city of Tuscaloosa and then Medicare is billed for labeling and delivery charges to the Health Care & Rehab Facility, it is not a certified medical facility & if your heart stopped the nurses are not capable to restart it & call for a ambulance 15 minutes away. This has happened once already and my brother feels that is normal, she had a bad yeast infection and they gave her a medication for a bowel movement that stopped her heart accidentally, she later within a week need two pints of blood before she could return and upon returning they did a blood test taking four vials from her needlessly for their records without upholding the hospital records at all. Her original doctor retired and the one that also has another practice 35 miles away started plus a new administrator was appointed with many new nurses and CSA staff but she does not get the care she is suppose to. It is like she is on a welfare role there being in a room with a black female that is semiconscious 24/7 that screams and cures when they wake her up to change the IV Feeding Tube & change her clothes plus make her bed with her still in it. The weekends are the worse, food service to her room because she is bedridden takes 2-4hrs VOLUNTEERS.

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Elder1Bety: I have an aunt who has schizophrenia. Your posts indicate a similar mental condition that is treatable with the help of a good doctor and the right medication. Please go to a qualified mental health physician for a mental health assessment. Your paranoia will be reduced significantly and you will be more positive minded, be able to communicate more effectively to your brother, and be a better caregiver for your dad and mom. I post this only as a caring individual who knows when one suffers from a mental illness and is not taking appropriate medication life is chaos and feels like a constant, uphill battle.
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If I read this right, the brother has POA and a job and assets of his own. Mom & Dad have a USAF pension. Betty and "us" has no job, no credit and is living with Dad.
Betty,
You cannot block the POA from coming to the house.
You cannot be the Guardian either, with bad credit and no self-support.
You should have your caseworker find housing for you very soon, because the house will be sold, and you will have to leave it. So start planning.
Sorry you and bro do not get along, sorry you resent the housing and cars he gave you. The good news is that it will end very soon, you will be free to go.
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Elder2Bety-I believe you misunderstood my post. I recommend that you seek a mental health assessment, not your dad. Here are 3 questions for you to determine if you need to do so. Answering yes to only one of the three indicates a psychological condition that should be addressed.
1). Do you frequently feel suspicious about the intentions or actions of others? 2). Do you often think that everyone else is wrong and only you are "right?
3). Do you spend a lot of time writing letters that contain a negative connotation to businesses, government agencies, or medical facilities?
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Well, you are a mess. It sounds to me like your brother is on the right path and you don't understand what's going on. First, when he comes over, it doesn't seem unusual at all to me for family members to access the fridge . Wouldn't you offer him something anyhow? What of yours is lying about for him to trample on? It sounds like maybe you are living in a messy, maybe hoarding, situation. About his suggesting that you quit paying her credit cards....good idea. Now, nursing homes are not in the business of stealing peoples checks. You sound very uninformed about how things work which is probably why you aren't the POA of choice. If volunteers are slow in delivering mom's food why don't you do it? Are you saying mom should be home so you can take care of two elderly people on your own. If your relatives are mentally competent they can change the POA. If not, you can go for guardianship, paying for that yourself of course. Why not ask for a new roommate if the current one is disturbing? If your mom is on Medicaid that is the welfare roll for health care, just dressed up in a nicer name. If you feel the care she is receiving is improper, report it to the licensing agency. As to your original question about getting a no trespassing court order, if I were you I would not go there. You are probably get more tangled up in confusion. What does your dad want?
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Elder, sorry to repeat this, but you are a mess. The first thing you should do is get yourself to a doctor. You are rambling on, mixing up your apparent childhood illnesses with resentment of your brother and bankruptcy is a federal issue not for the state judiciary. You probably need some meds to calm you down, slow you down, and clear up your thinking. There is something just strange about talking how your dad can swim under water with his eyes open and connecting that to how he's looking around each morning for his wife. If that doesn't strike you as a strange comment you are probably not in any condition to be providing his care, much less you mom's care. Put on your own oxygen mask first, get to a doctor for a checkup and care for yourself first. You are going to stress yourself out and be of no help to anyone.
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Well, I'm pretty sure that the third time here will not be the charm. Your confusion on basic facts leaves no doubt that you could not help anyone else out of a paper bag. You are a mess. No one has a payroll deduction for Medicaid. It is medical welfare. Deductions are made for MEDICARE. Debralee is correct in her postings on everything, including the long term care issue. I don"t see how you can get any help here on your no trespass issue because it is ridiculous. We don't know anything about your brother other than your rants.. Maybe he is a mess too, but he has to deal with you in person. Yikes. Really, go to your doctor and get a full workup and have your meds reviewed. If you were my sister I'd throw a over you and drag you into the doctor ASAP. Good Luck. If you want to ramble on, fine. Just don't get your hopes up for help on the no trespass confusion. Ain't gonna happen.
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Elder2BetyJones, yes I read your EVFCF blog and I read all the medications you are on. Please call your doctor tomorrow, you are very OD now.
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Do not let this posting continue on. Elder2BetyJones is an imposter. He is actually the son named Charles. He has postings on Twitter and Facebook that basically say the same thing here on this site. He has some serious mental health issues and is obsessed with government conspiracy theories and very paranoid about the Muslims. He goes to many social websites spewing his venimous insanity. Ignore this poster or report him.
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Sometimes I wish we could just forward these posts to the appropriate local APS office for an investigation. Oh well.
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I have Tricare and do not have to go to a military treatment facility! I am a veteran and my Va benefits are not affected by the Affordable Care Act. That federal long term care insurance program is not a state or federal mandated program. It is a voluntary insurance program set up by Employers for ther employees to purchase long term care insurance. I am employed and there is nothing that mentions state medicaid enrollment deductions as to whether to opt out or in. The Federal Long Term Care Program is administered to those who were federal employees. I should know my husband is Federal Retiree and also a Military Retiree. Your referral to the Muslim people only show how ignorant and bigoted you are. Go ahead and report me. I find your response so misinformed and distasteful. I put you in the same category as those who choose supremacy over basic human beings. You make me sick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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