My sister is my 96 year old Mom's full-time caregiver. She has been doing this for almost 5 years, after taking early retirement to do so. She has some help a few times a week now, but the constant over-all responsibility and limitations on her freedom are getting to her. She is more and more depressed and I am very concerned for her.
She is extremely committed to Mom and determined that we will not put Mom in a nursing home (Mom's greatest fear). She is now getting very pessimistic about what her future holds, thinking that she will soon be to old to enjoy life.
She is a very caring, nurturing person and needs to have someone to talk to about all of this besides family members---we are torn between wanting to care for Mom and wanting to rescue her.