I signed up to this forum because of my grandma, we all thought she had Alzheimer's disease and she doesn't, the years she spent neglecting her diabetes and high blood pressure caused small strokes on her brain and those strokes are the cause of her loss of memory and cognitive function, this was what the doctor explained to us after examining her brain scan. Now I'm here because of my mother, I don't know if I'm seeing things where they don't exist, maybe I'm too paranoid, in fact I suffer from mental illness and paranoia is a part of my daily life, anxiety too but I've been noticing that my mother seems confused lately. She's my grandma's caregiver, she works a lot even after a major heart attack and she still has to deal with my illness, her life is really stressful and that could be the cause but my anxiety won't stop bothering me with this, I'm so afraid to lose my mother, she's the only person I have. I have been noticing that sometimes she forgets words while speaking, it's not that bad, she remembers them shortly after and goes on speaking, she has forgotten to pay a bill or two but remembered she had to pay it on the next day, sometimes she also makes some silly jokes that seem out of character, apart from this there's nothing else I can point. She's a very active person, she works a lot and she loves to work but my grandma's condition is being really hard to handle specially for her, her days are really stressful. My question is, could this be related to stress?? I don't want to force her to go to the doctor just because of my paranoia, maybe I'm the one who is seeing things where they don't exist, I analyze everything she does to the smallest details and if I find something different I get paranoid... I'm just too scared of losing her... What can I do to improve my mother's memory and try to make her relax a little?? The doctor said that my grandmother's dementia could have been prevented if she had taken better care of herself and of her memory, she never did, I want to do for my mother what I didn't do for my grandma.