I just moved my mother into my house, her caregiver husband died. Mom has dementia. I am her Power of Attorney (POA) and caregiver now. I was told by an Elder law attorney to spend down her money to get her into a nursing home and on Medicaid. I am reluctant to do that. Mom doesn't have that much money, I'm afraid if I spend it then I can't find a nursing home that takes Medicaid or has a Medicaid bed available. The lawyer said she would rewrite the POA so mom would qualify for Medicaid and I could pay myself for caregiving. Could I write a caregiver agreement and let mom pay me for care, room and board, without going through an Elder Law Attorney? The attorney wants to charge $750 for the POA. I have found caregiver agreements online from AARP, and Alzheimers Organizations. If I spend her money on respite care, pay myself a modest amount would that count against her getting Medicaid when she needs it?