A 90-yr. old Uncle, no kids, refuses home care. He refuses medical care, (obvious dementia) with a very unsafe home, drives after losing glasses, unsanitary home because he won't let the dog out for potty...it's a mess. A fantastic home health care provider suggested I get an attorney expert in Elder Care to act as a third party to challenge my Uncle's attorney who may/may not have POA or POM...so when I find an attorney, who pays? I work, but the cost of an attorney is prohibitive. My Uncle is not poor, and the Area Office on Aging/Legal Aid will not step in because he has assets. I contacted the Ohio Attorney General Elder Rep who said he has every legal right to deny home care... I am so frustrated with my Uncle; I worry he will kill someone on the road..and the poor dog is suffering because he neglects her needs.
One suggestion was to go with "tough love" (not clean up dog doo, no grocery trips, no backtracking to get his cable turned on because he forgets to pay bills, etc.)
So, who pays for the consultation with the third party attorney? My Uncle is a bachelor, always difficult. If I am the only family member with any compassion for this WW II/Korea vet...how expensive can it get?