Hey, after thinking my dad was sinking like a rock, he's come back up for now. But I need tips on how to brush off mean comments he makes in passing. Certainly not at the level that many of you are dealing with, but just so steeped in selfishness and an inability to recognize there's anyone else in the house, and it always catches me so off guard, that I get so angry internally I can barely breathe. Today: while cleaning out his bedside toilet of poop, I tried to make small talk about a big event in our household. Our 14-year-old has saved up enough and worked with the breeder for a couple of months to adopt a baby macaw. This silly macaw has kept everyone (six total in the house) going at times - this flying doggo (it's a huge bird) makes us remember that there IS another life outside of taking care of Sick Grandpa. So I said, hey (the bird's name) is finally, finally coming home this Tuesday - everyone is so excited! And he looks at me and says, "I don't give a s*** about that godd*** bird." I felt like I had been slapped, and my immediate reaction (inside) was absolute anger. As in, well, I don't give a S*** about YOUR s***, but do it any way and cheerfully. I don't give a S*** about 90 percent of the things I'm doing, but do it anyway. And then I have to take a step back, realize that he's probably having blood flow dementia, breathe, and just let it go. SOOOOO. How do I train myself to let it go. Because I suspect this is going to get worse, not better. I also realized today that as terrified as I was about dealing with the physical issues, the emotional issues (like this) is what causes me to burn out. Poop is bad, picking up his remote 436 times a day is irritating, but his brush-off of his granddaughter and other people, is what makes this - on some days - intolerable and depressing.