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I am my mom's only living relative and am single. I am freaking out knowing she's in the last stage of her pulmonary fibrosis. I have few distant relatives and we don't talk.

She said today she's not going to be here much longer and wants to spend more time with me. I need to stop worrying about being alone and focus on her and our time together.

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I am sorry I said dad and not mom
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I could not sleep at night, my brain with not shut off from worrying. My doctor put me on a very lose dose of celexa (depression) and this helped tremendously for me .
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Is your dad on hospice? There are services provided with hospice, visits by a nurse, aid to help you with bathing, minister, massage therapy. This may help you too. Hospice nurses have literature and can help explain to you what is happening and what will happen in the future . Having someone else in the house for me was a huge mental and emotional support. Maybe having a friend with you or someone from your church, neighbor. Reach out, you may be able to find some people to be able to spend a few hours visiting and then you won't be alone, my heart goes out to you, this was the hardest and must rewarding thing i ever did. Hang in there.
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I wish i knew, i too stay worried my dads dying. He lost 50 pds and has alot of body wasting. This has been a quick decline. Its really hard to know whats next. I hope you get some rest.
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One thing I have done with my mother is go over old family pictures together. Even though she has dementia, she can tell some great stories (and dirt) on the ancestors. I take notes or record the sessions. The family genealogists love it and Mom loves that she can remember all this old stuff. Quality time and irreplaceable information.
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If she is declining before your eyes, she could be telling the truth; she may feel it inside, or as Pam says may just be a worry wart herself. But if her doc thinks she's in bad shape, and maybe even if he or she doesn't, have those meaningful conversations, find out what she wants, plan some things she can still do and will enjoy to make good memories for both of you. See if she has friends who should know and who knows, a few of them might brighten your days too.

Go out and see the Christmas lights together this year for sure!
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You're right but she has been declining rapidly in the past month.

I'm probably getting wigged out about nothing.

thanks😉
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Define "not much longer". Nana said that 20 years before she died and every year in between. Ask her MD if what she says is true or if she is being a bit dramatic.
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