I've posted here before. My mom is 83. Not demented, but has had numerous health problems in recent years and basically never leaves the house. She's doing OK at the moment, but I am terrified of how I will cope with losing her eventually. I'm her only child and my father died tragically when I was 6. My mom drank a lot after that and I was/am extremely co-dependent and "enmeshed" with her. I know people grieve terribly when they lose their parents, but I do think that if you had a relatively healthy relationship (ie not enmeshed) it's easier to cope with. I feel like my mother is an artery in my body, like I couldn't possibly survive without her (ie I would have a mental collapse). I have kids, friends, but no partner right now, so I don't feel like I have anyone who will "save" me when this happens.
Thanks for listening. I just had to get that off my chest.