At the request of my 2 sisters and brother, I moved from California back to Michigan after 30 years - I gave up everything - could not bring my beloved dogs or anything else - Everyone said don't bring anything, just come and take care of Mom. It was a guilt thing - 15 years of Catholic school and I was gone for so long - even tho I sent mom thousands of dollars over the years which paid for her house, car, several trips to San Francisco and supported her gambling habit - The instant I arrived she introduced me as homeless and she was helping me out - no support from siblings - treated me the same - some freak from California - Mom is only happy if I'm in my room. She hates if I go outside, does not let me drive the car unless its to get her coffee, take her to a casino or pick up perscriptions. I patronize as she has a degenerative kidney problem and the kidneys will eventually shut down - doc says it may be a few years. Guilt again.....could go on and on....have a son in San Fran who is a meth addict, a very wealthy ex husband who refuses to help him - he is in Marin County Jail at this time for the 10th time... better stop - probably should write a novel.