My mother is 87 and has always been a caring, loving person albeit a little jealous of my husband's parents and siblings. I am the only female of 5 siblings and live next door. My mother has become increasingly controlling of my time, even comparing how much more time I spend with my own kids and grandkids than her. She is also beginning to throw out those little barbs that are so hard to ignore.
She remarried after my Dad died because she was "so lonely" even though we lived next door. My Dad has been dead 9 years and she has been married to Art for 7. He is obnoxious and a very negative man. However, he helps anyone in the family that needs financial help. I believe he has contributed to my Mom's negative, whining, and demanding ways. I'm ready to move a far distance but know this is not the answer. I just need words of encouragement to cope.