We're currently treading in unfamiliar territory. My mother and father in law recently moved into an independent living apartment at our insisting after she took a fall and was hospitalized. We didn't find out she was in the hospital until 3 days later because he never called us or asked the hospital to contact us. My father in law is in his mid 80's and very controlling of my mother in law. He's just a horrible, manipulative person, and I believe his mind is slipping. We're terribly concerned that he will not make the right decisions for her when her health begins to fail, and in her absence there's no way he could handle anything financial. Not only would he make the wrong decisions in our eyes, we're just not sure he's even capable of making sound decisions. We have asked my mother in law on numerous occasions to sign the Power of Attorney over to my wife. In fact a POA was required prior to moving into the apartment, but she never filled it out. She knows that we would always make sure she's cared for properly and that her best interests would always be our priority. Still yet, she has not filled out the paper work and won't talk about it because he might hear her. We would love some advice on what to do. We're very afraid something is going to happen and we're going to be unable to ensure her proper care. Our constant nagging for her to fill out the form is going nowhere and just creating stress on both sides.