She and her husband have no cemetery plots or any other plans. My husband and my sister's husband have Alzheimer's. He is 2 yrs younger than my husband and not as confused as my husband yet. We have our cemetery plots bought and paid for and know each other's wishes. My sister can not get her husband to talk about it so don't know which town, which cemetery or any other wishes that should be decided on. They live in a town 3 hrs from any family and she has only a son who is very absorbed with his own immediate family and I don't know how much help he would be if one of them should die. My sister's husband is his step father. He is very close to his own father. I worry for my sister if she should have to make all these decisions in a moment of distress but I can't get her to listen to me. Do I just shut up and wait to see what happens?