We care for my husband's mom - she has been here nearly 7 years and the last 3 have been very difficult. I retired early to care for her. She has two other children who rarely call or visit. We have asked them repeatedly to take mom for a bit and give us a break. One of them has promised 3 times and backed out twice and came to stay once - only to leave 24 hours after we went on vacation - leaving mom alone. That was the end of that respite break. The other child did take her for one week recently - it happened to be 'between health crises' - so all went smoothly and he thinks caring for mom is 'no problem.' She has since suffered a TIA with some lingering effect. She is 87, has had three knee surgeries, has diabetes, high BP, enlarged heart, and beginning dementia. I need a break - long enough to truly relax. We cannot afford paid help. Has anyone else found a way to convince other siblings to offer a respite/break? I have a feeling that this kind of family cooperation is not the norm - that it seems to usually be just one kid (in my case, one daughter in law) who does it all. Any practical suggestions for THE CONVERSATION?