Hi, new to the forum. Glad I found you! My mother just turned 84. Last year, she fell three times, breaking bones two of those times and getting a concussion the third.
She is frail and can't walk well at all, but insists on doing high risk things like standing on kitchen chairs to get at things on high shelves. When we indicate to her that that is a very bad idea, she gets angry.
She does not eat right, has withdrawn from social activities at the independent living center. I finally had an intervention where I told her it was mandatory that she get some help, walking her through exercises, doing her shopping (two of the ER trips came out of solo trips to Walmart), preparing nourishing meals, etc. I got an agency to send someone in four hours a week and she agreed to it to my face but a couple of days later began to back away from it.
This is a pattern of behavior she has shown before; I do something to make her safer and less stressed, and she undoes it. I am running out of options and energy. I am almost at the point of simply backing off entirely and letting her do whatever she wants, but I know that there will be severe consequences down the road. I lost my job a few months back and it's a lot of work just piecing together enough work to keep money coming in. I am simply running out of time and energy to help her.
She won't tell me what she really wants but everything I've done so far she has not responded to. Does anyone have advice?