My husband has dementia as a result of whole-head radiation received six years ago following the removal of a large and very rare brain tumor. He has anosognosia, which means the part of his brain that tells him he's ill, has been damaged. He thinks he's fine and normal, even though his brain operates cognitively at less than 1% of a normal male of his age (he was run through a battery of tests to determine this). He played guitar in the church band for years and enjoyed it greatly. Because it is a church group, they've been great with his steady decline and have continued to let him 'play' in the band. His amp is turned off, but he doesn't know this. This was ok at first, but as the years go by and he ever so gradually worsens, it is becoming a burden on myself and others, as he doesn't drive and either I, or someone else has to give him rides to/from the weekly practices. His fingers move so slowly, he cant possibly keep up on the guitar. He's not been able to logon to, let alone use, a computer for years, yet every week he asks me if I'll set him up on the computer so he can receive the music the band leader sends out every week. Thankfully, he forgets about this as soon as he asks me. He asked me for a marker so he could mark where the chords were on the neck of his guitar, and I bought him little colored dots he could stick on, which he was happy with. However, if he has to mark the chords, I'm thinking the time has come that he needs to be told that he shouldn't be in the band any longer. There's hardly anything he can do and he is overly focused (as only those with dimentia can be) on making sure he gets to the practices and plays on Sundays. I have to tell him when to go up and play and motion for him to come sit by me, as he can't figure this out for himself. Except for the person who has been so kind for years now and picks him up and brings him home from practice most weeks, the band leader has not said anything to me. Am I just being a worn-out caregiver? Should I let this continue? Should I straight-out ask the band leader? Anyone else had to deal with something like this?