He suffers from vascular dementia. I have produced our children who swear that I am their mother and his wife to no avail. I have produced our wedding certificate innumerable times; told him things that only he and his wife could know. He either forgets or claims that anyone could re-produce a fake licence. I try saying that I am busy and we will go into that later and he says that I always say that, but that I never bring it up again.
He is heartbroken sometimes that his wife is lost to him. He seems to be able to remember some things that contribute to his theory - and conveniently forget things that I say or show that may be proof of our marriage. He simply cannot be 'tricked' into the delay of facing his belief..
He won't call me a liar, but he does not believe me. I have not been able to pretend that his wife is out there somewhere where he cannot locate her!
Lately he is questioning our legality to our property and wants to go through our legal papers to be sure that no one can 'take it away'. Nevermind that he cannot really understand what he reads, etc.. 'Not sure if he mistrusts me or that 'other someone' who could be claiming to be his wife.
'So confusing to explain and so frustrating to go through this day after day. He only sleeps in the living room in his rocker, also, even though I tuck him in bed every night, he is up in an hour or so looking for his LaZy boy.
I am lucky if I get 5 hours of sleep each night wondering if he is OK or out on the front deck waiting for his real wife to pick him up!