Dad is 91 and the main caregiver. He cannot do this 24/7 anymore and mom is declining. All three kids work full time. She still has mental functions but cannot cook, clean, or remember to take meds. Dad forgets to feed her at lunch so she won't eat. she declining and needs help but will not accept an outsider. Dad is finally on board. how do we approach mom? how do we "convince" her this is a good thing? She won't go outside or leave the house. she has latched onto Dad so much that he can't even go get the mail. We need advice. And he needs help.