My parent's home desperately needs new siding and windows. The house was built 40 years ago. The siding and windows have never been replaced. My father has the money for the work & supplies.
The problem is my 74 year-old (possibly)N mother refuses to clean her bedroom. The workers will have to enter the house to replace the windows in her bedroom. While the rest of the house doesn't look too bad, her bedroom looks like a hoarder's. She hasn't slept in there in years. The floor is cluttered with all kinds of items. There are heaps of clothes, shoes, bits of paper, KMart bags, and etc everywhere.
I just offered to help her clean. I said we would start small and just do a little bit everyday. Then when spring rolls around we will be ready to have someone come in.
She not only refused by ranted and raved for several minutes. She tried to turn it around on everyone else. Then blamed my dad for being too cheap to buy new anything. The one thing I have learned from this site is to not engage in an argument with her. So I just backed off and walked away.
She has never been big on cleaning the house. I was often too embarrassed as a kid to bring friends home because it was always a mess. Dad is tired of fighting with her since she argues about anything and everything.
Does anyone have any suggestions for convincing her to clean? I've even tried pointing out their house is the worst looking on the street, but it doesn't matter and just causes her to argue.