Mum had a stroke that affected her speech/understanding when she was in her early seventies. She is now in her mid eighties. She has been living in an aged care facility for the past 2 years where she has been receiving wonderful low level care. She still makes her own bed and and tells me that she showers herself every night. She became very upset and angry when the staff talked to her about changing her clothes more often. I dont know how to approach her about this issue. I don't want to upset her or make her feel patronised or belittled.