Both of my parents have dementia/alzheimers. They are still living in the home they have lived in for 61 years. They feel they are fine, doing great actually, but they really aren't.. My sisters and I are so concerned, and have tried to talk to them about it, but they seem totally oblivious to their surroundings. Not only do they no longer shower, their clothes smell, they smell, the house is filthy, they are buying the same groceries every single day at walmart and stacking them up all over the house. There cat is urinating in their house (we have tried to talk to them about it, they don't even realize it's happening).. My dad is still driving them to mcd's and walmart every day, and to a resturant for dinner. They live in a small town, and we've had quite a few calls from the city office, banks, etc., telling us our dad was in and very confused. Unfortunatley, all three of my sisters and myself live in different areas, so none of us are near enough to check on them daily or even weekly. We try calling but it's unusual for them to actually pick up the phone. We have started having family get togethers once a month but all this is doing is convincing us something has to be done, and done soon..Even though our dad seems to be careful when driving, we don't think he should be behind the wheel. He's actually gotten in two small accidents in the last 3 years. Our dad has not been to a doctor in probably 40 years.. He isn't about to go now (we've tried) so he isn't on any medication, but our mom takes 4 prescriptions. At one point she was 9... She was a lot worse when taking all 9 of them. Through her doctor we have cut her down to 4, but we don't even know if she's taking them, or if she might be taking more than her daily dose some days.. The worse part about it is that they don't realize how bad it is.. They just keep saying they are fine, they have everything under control. A few months ago we started realizing the bills weren't getting paid, they hadn't filed income tax for 2 years, the car insurance had been cancelled, house insurance was on the verge of cancellation,things like that.. My oldest sister was able to convince my dad to sign a poa and we have gotten them completely caught up financially and know where they stand.. We all feel they need to move to an assisted living home, but they won't hear of it. We have found one near me (a mile from my home) that is beautiful, wonderful location, great caretakers, great feedback, great reputation, and there is possibly going to be an independent apartment available in a few weeks... Although we know they need assisted care, we figure this is one step closer to getting them there. At least with this, they will have caretakers there when needed, plus my husband and I already plan to stop in daily just to check on them.. The thing is, we have all these great plans in place, but our parents want nothing to do with it.. How to you force your parents into doing what is best for them when they don't understand there is a huge problem? Can any of your give me some advice? My sisters and I feel like we are just drowning.. Others tell us, you just tell them how it is and that's that..We've had some say you just trick them, take them there and tell them they aren't leaving.. These are our parents that we love very much, and it isn't as easy as that! We want to help them, not hurt them...Our Dad is a very proud man who has always taken care of everything himself.. Of all the things he's lost, his pride is not one of them.. Any suggestions on how we can lovingly convince them they need to move to this home? Money is not the problem. They can afford it. The only problem is convincing them to do it.