As you guys know that I'm trying to bridge the distance with my moms Alzheimer's, with her not wanting to stop giving stray cats food outside her condo in a condo community (there are laws about causing cat infestation for doing this), I tell her not to do this and the next day she forgets and puts food again for these animals (I stand to be fined several times from the condo actin.) Now I'm wondering if she eats a complete meal. Lately Ive been seeing her frog with food not consumed. That worries me. I'm about to leave her here in texas and go back to work on the west coast. Texas Human services is helping a bit with some assistance but she is still alone. She can't go outside anymore with out falling some where. I've contacted other agencies here in Texas to see what they can do. I would appreciate your suggestions. I don't have sufficient resources per say to put her in an assisted living place yet. In my mid forties but very stressed about this whole thing. No area relatives that can help either.
Your mom has made poor decisions in the past couple of years and apparently does not see you as a trusted, supportive family member (NOT your fault). So, she is going to have to rely on public funds and public programs.
This is HER choice, not a failing on your part.
It is not your responsibility to pay for her care. That is hers.