My mother has moderate dmentia and has had 4 fractures since last August. 1) knee 2) wrist 3) T-12 compression vertebrae and, most recently, 4) fractured acetabulum.
I have many reasons to feel blessed; she has her own financial resources and we can afford her current assisted care facility, my siblings are all in agreement with the decisions made so far (I am P.O.W.).
My question is, why is this so exhausting and is there a way to get past it. I cannot seem to go to sleep or wake up without her being first and last thought.
She is narcissistic, selfish, and only wants to talk about herself and how sad she is, how awful her life is. She refuses to make friends, get acquainted or even try in her new facility. Instead she relies completely on family member visits and calls but then forgets about them as she looks to the next. She is an empty bucket that can't be filled and I know this but it doesnt seem to help my exhaustion and that of my siblings.
I am so happy to have found this forum; I actually Googled "narcissistic with dementia" to find you. Any "me too's" or words of advice are appreciated.