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My 93-year-old mother was an artist in her time. She has this idea that she took a portfolio of work in a cab to a friend's house. This is not true. She can't stop obsessing about it, and I don't know what to say.
Is she able/interested/willing to use any kind of materials to do new work? She may be craving her prior artistic experiences, without being able to verbalize her feelings precisely.
After she recovered from her second COVID attack, we discovered that my LO was enjoying adult coloring books, and for a while she was peaceful with them using large crayons.
ANY materials that she might be able to use would be worth a try.
Maybe start by asking her what she’d like to use to replace the “missing” portfolio?
ALSO- if you happen to be near a college with a good sized fine arts program, look into geriatric art therapy. You may be able to hire a compassionate student who would enjoy working with her.
It sounds like a loop in her mind that she keeps returning to. Perhaps at one time it was a fear of hers that she would lose her portfolio and all her work. Or it may have happened to someone else or she may have seen it in a movie or read it in a book. Regardless, it is real to her. Just tell her you will call when the cab company is open and then change the subject. Or you can say the dispatcher has to wait for all the drivers to get back in and then they will call you. Just say whatever calms her and then change the subject. Do not try to convince her that she is wrong, just assure her you are on the job but for now let’s watch the favorite show or have lunch or whatever you can distract her with. You must not let it upset you. After awhile she will forget about the portfolio and come up with something else. You can say the same thing each time as she will not remember. I’m sorry she has dementia and is confused. Try watching Teepa Snow videos on YouTube to see if you pick up some ideas on how to help your mom.
About the toilet, I purchased my DH aunt one of the toilets that claim to be able to flush a bucket of golf balls. It solved the problem for her. Too much TP is another one of those common issues your mom will hopefully get through after awhile.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Perhaps you can introduce that as a positive, something that you will cherish after she is gone, heading her in that direction as a special request.
Is she able/interested/willing to use any kind of materials to do new work? She may be craving her prior artistic experiences, without being able to verbalize her feelings precisely.
After she recovered from her second COVID attack, we discovered that my LO was enjoying adult coloring books, and for a while she was peaceful with them using large crayons.
ANY materials that she might be able to use would be worth a try.
Maybe start by asking her what she’d like to use to replace the “missing” portfolio?
ALSO- if you happen to be near a college with a good sized fine arts program, look into geriatric art therapy. You may be able to hire a compassionate student who would enjoy working with her.
Just tell her you will call when the cab company is open and then change the subject. Or you can say the dispatcher has to wait for all the drivers to get back in and then they will call you. Just say whatever calms her and then change the subject.
Do not try to convince her that she is wrong, just assure her you are on the job but for now let’s watch the favorite show or have lunch or whatever you can distract her with. You must not let it upset you. After awhile she will forget about the portfolio and come up with something else.
You can say the same thing each time as she will not remember.
I’m sorry she has dementia and is confused. Try watching Teepa Snow videos on YouTube to see if you pick up some ideas on how to help your mom.
About the toilet, I purchased my DH aunt one of the toilets that claim to be able to flush a bucket of golf balls. It solved the problem for her. Too much TP is another one of those common issues your mom will hopefully get through after awhile.
What have you said to her so far?