We have found a place for my 84 year old mom. She has been living with my husband and I for 8 months, she has dementia on a test given by a social worker she got a 10 where 30 is the highest score. I baby sit my 1 1/2 year old grandson, I have lots of animals which she doesn't like. She has become violent with me and has left scars from scratches. I love my mom, but she is getting to be too much for me, I feel so guilty doing it. The last week she has done nothing. No violence. I guess my question is should I still go through with the admission.
Hey, I knew that mom and I could never live together, ever. We were just two really different people. But my SIL absolutely adored my mother, and my mom adored her. The plan was always for mom to move in to brother's house as mom aged.
But mom developed vascular dementia from a stroke. To quote my wonderful SIL: "I love mom, but I can't cope with her living here if she's crazy". It was a very accurate and loving assessment.
Mom benefited from the professional care at the NH from folks who understood dementia and who understood what she MEANT even if the aphasia meant that the words came out wrong.
Having mom get that level of care was amazing; it allowed us to visit, have good times, bring treats and great grandchildren, have holiday celebrations at the NH. Mom was in good hands.
A sudden change in behavior is called a "change in mental status" and needs to be reported to mom's doctor immediately. There are sometimes medical reasons that people's behavior changes, like a UTI.